Crying:(

Crying: Meaning:Adjective:“demanding attention”& “Conspicuously and outrageously bad or reprehensible”                                                                                                         

Noun:The process of shedding tears                

Crying is sort of taboo in our society, we are taught to be happy and spread happiness and this message is fed to us from everywhere from parents to relatives, Movies and songs etc. Everyone will tell you to be happy, keep smiling but nobody will discuss about crying but that is obvious. Crying is  associated with pain and No one wishes pain to other but in practical world where we always have thousand desires, Pain is inevitable so as the crying. We start our life with tears, Tears output of activity known as crying. That is the only time of our life when everybody expects us to cry and that too aloud one.What a entry? and by chance if someone try to sneak in to this world quietly, they never let you do that. Any how do you know our tears are constitute of water, hormones and number of chemicals? It contain hormones prolactin,adrenocorticotropichormone, Leu-enkephalin and the potassium and manganese.

Not only that there are many different type of crying. we can discern it into two main categories Emotional one and non emotional one. It is also known as lacrimation which mean just shedding tears. Our body shed tears when some foreign particle enters into out eye to remove it from eye or when we are under emotional trauma.

I witnessed two different crying episodes today. In both cases, crying was emotional crying. In first case it was a kid (7 year old), his father was taking him to some place and he had no plans to leave his mother behind so he was yelling and crying like anything and trying his best to get out of his father’s grip. I think he tried his best for around 10-15 minutes and after that he got engaged into something else. I really enjoyed whole show. In other incident it was totally a different experience, An adult is trying her best to hold on her tears and she too tried her best to hold on her tears till as much as time she can. I left her alone to complete try her best but I am sure. She has been still trying hard to hold her tears. I witnessed both incidents for  the same period of time but I was amazed at the difference and similarities of the emotional outbursts.

Both parties(A kid and an adult) had some unfulfilled desires, which became reason of pain and out come was outburst but point to be noted over here is the magnitude of pain, which was same in both cases( I assume that) but the way that kid recovered out of it was amazing and that is what ? forced me to sleepover  this case of crying. As kid, his desire was momentary and when he realized that now he can’t overpower his father’s grip he surrender  and start enjoy next best thing close to him and he didn’t try to shroud his feelings because of embarrassment. Instead he express them freely and cried on the highest pitch  of his voice and once his energy was exhausted, he didn’t let that negative thoughts prevail  in his mind. On other hand my an adult friend, she was afraid of showing her emotional side to me  and she had plans to keep her negative energy inside her so she did that and that’s why she will not able to lose that pain and with time it will keep growing unless until she will let it go. CRY …..seriously whenever you fell like crying, cry the way you laugh and enjoy it…just observe, when you are crying next time.there are sort of waves rising and falling in side (that might be diaphragm action) from mid of your stomach and goes up to your throat. Even though you wish to speak it out but just because of that wave which is in your mouth you can’t utter a single word and some you will feel lot of energy in you and at the same time you will feel so helpless that you can’t able to move your hand and once you are done with crying. You will feel great relief or sort of rest in your body. You will feel as if just now you had done some exhaustive job. Next time experience cry in this way :).

In this fashion you will not only over come your negative thoughts but at the same time will have gratitude towards the desire (person thing or xyz etc), which had bring that experience to you and you will see table is already turned around.

CRYING IS NOT BAD FOR HEALTH!

I have been pierced by the arrow of love, what shall I do ?--------------Bulleh Shah

I have been pierced by the arrow of love, what shall I do ?
I can neither live, nor can I die.
Listen ye to my ceaseless outpourings,
I have peace neither by night, nor by day.
I cannot do without my Beloved even for a moment.
I have been pierced by the arrow of love, what shall I do ?
The fire of separation is unceasing !
Let someone take care of my love.
How can I be saved without seeing him?
I have been pierced by the arrow of love, what shall I do ?
O Bullah, I am in dire trouble !
Let someone come to help me out.
How shall I endure such torture ?
I have been pierced by the arrow of love,
what shall I do ?
I can neither live, nor can I die

-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------He was lover of his guru and god. Moniker for his god was Ranjha / Heer. He always remember his god as a lover. He describe his feeling in metaphors and whenever I read him, it seem as if he wrote these poems for me only. I don’t know? what I am searching for but I am sure it is either god or Heer. as I wish, one day I too will  love like him.

I know who you are, I know who I am I know the truth and the meaning of love. God is singing within your heart breathing inside your breath more close than a hand within a glove or a thought within the head. If you listen, my friend, with an open heart you will know this declaration's true the Truth? You forgot some time ago the surprise - the revelation's you you wrote this poem yes, you back then when your heart was filled with ecstasy blind drunk on the clear wine of love. (Shah)

Mind Without Fear- R.Tagore

Where the mind is without fear and the head is held high;
Where knowledge is free;
Where the world has not been broken up
into fragments by narrow domestic walls;
Where words come out from the depth of truth;
Where tireless striving stretches its arms towards perfection;
Where the clear stream of reason
has not lost its way into the dreary desert sand of dead habit;
Where the mind is led forward by thee into ever-widening thought and action-Into that heaven of freedom, my Father, let my country awake.

-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------This work was translated by Mr. Tagore, when requested by Mr. William Rothenstein in 191. It appeared as a poem in “Gitanjali “ in 1912 published by The Indian society, Londan.

Later on, this same poem inspired many Indians to have a strong, dynamic and determined picture of self during struggle of freedom.

Do any one would wish to die like Mr. Thackeray?

I have my condolence with Mr. Thackeray’s family but so as with all those who die at that moment. Ten deaths are registered in India every minute on a good sunny day so why this halla bulla. I am amazed at the headlines of different newspapers.

“20,000 police personnel deployed.”

Security was beefed up across Maharashtra, particularly in Mumbai where 20,000 police personnel were deployed, to keep a tight vigil following the death of Shiv Sena chief Bal Thackeray here today.

“No film shows in Mumbai on Sunday.”

cinema house owners in the city have decided to keep the theatres closed on Saturday evening and Sunday for security reasons.

There was a time when leaders like Bhagat Singh and Chandrashekhar Azad died, and the whole country comes out to pray for them but willingly and their believers didn’t disrupt the normal life or neither they harmed anyone.

At the age of 86 what is expected from the human body? Can’t we see what is happening?The person who left was no more Thackeray and even what if he was. He was a weak human being like us, who had extreme hatred hidden inside him but that doesn’t let us down that person after his death. 

His body should be given a peaceful farewell rather than this show off of power over which SHIV SENA will try to build their future.

I am sure Late. Mr. Thackeray will not be happy to see all these news headlines because I will never be. The day I will leave this earth I want to see peace and happiness behind not hostile conditions and that too because of my death.

“Lata Mangeshkar: Lata said Maharashtra was "orphaned" by Thackeray's death at the age of 86. "Hindu Friday Samrat, param darn ya Shri Balasaheb Thackeray hum logon ko choke anant mein vileen ho gaye. Yeh satya hai ki aaj Maharashtra anaath ho gaya”

Dear Madam if he is a such a son of land then why don’t you pray to god to resend him as a MARATHI. Is that possible? No. No one have control over that then why to keep hatred and anger for anyone in one’s heart for a cause which is not a cause?

My point is not that, What I am saying is I don’t wish to die like Mr. Thackeray.

Do you?

Few Line from Rabindranath’s Gitanjali

Who is this?

I Came out alone on my way to my tryst.But who is this that follows me in the silent darks?

I move aside to avoid his presence but escape him not.

he makes the dust rise from the earth with his swagger; he adds his loud voice to every word that I utter.

He is my own little self, my lord, he knows no shame; but I am ashamed to come to thy door in his company.

                                                  By R.Tagore

Poet is a painter who paints his imagination and thoughts with words. As paintings are multi dimensional so as the poems. Shrouded under webs of words, there lay many meanings and as per reader’s nature and enlightenment  one translate it .

My translation:

I am out on my journey all alone but I always found some one lingering around. My ego,  He has a name. my name, he is just absolute and growing with me, day by day. I try to avoid him by hearing my inner voice “my soul” but not able to get rid of him as he always wins to align me with  the requirements of this transient world. he creates lot of false halos around me.Which reflects in my all actions and words. I know him in and out because I am playing in hands of this ego.

Attitude that hinder organizations to develop new products.

1. No one is doing it.

2.We  have never tried it before.

3.We tried it last time and it didn’t worked.

4. It will be not compatible to our business model

5.It will be too expensive

6.We have to change our production facility

7.We have to develop new vendors.

8.We don’t have technical expertise.

9.We can go for it but lead time will be high.

If you are asked to choose between reduction in warranty claims or new product development, In which option would you like to put your efforts? This is quite a hen and egg puzzle but obviously every organization wishes to produce warranty claim free products but we all know warranty claims are bound to happen what so ever one do. As product quality curve (bath tub curve) shows, product is suppose to improve after some time but if that some time is the life of the product then after some threshold time organization should switch to new product rather then putting efforts in warranty claims.

Democracy: Right to vote or more than that?

What is democracy? Does it mean just a right to vote and choose Member of parliaments? We, the Indians are very much proud of our democracy,” world largest democracy “. What type of  democracy it is? Where voter have no practical right on the leader whom he had made member of parliament. where public servants always have notion that public is their servant. I asked these question to myself:

1. If we have a democracy then why not government ask me to vote for any important bill ?

2. If we are in democracy then why all leaders travel in cars/planes and burn crores of rupee in their luxuries and my fellow citizens are dying of hunger every year?

3.If I am living in a democratic country then why I am so helpless after elections?

4.Why my employee (member of parliament) whom I am recruiting and paying salary (hefty one with lots of perks) is not accountable to the work he/she is supposed to do? 

5. Why do this employee, is not disciplined? Why don’t he/her have any targets to accomplish in his/her tenure ?

In countries like USA, with 50 states and 3033 counties but still they have open house debates before every election and before implementing any new bill. why it is not possible in world largest democratic country with just 640 districts ?

But still question is what is democracy ? Is it a form of governance in which system is by the people and for the people.  Did we miss-understood its definition or our leaders ? I found below picture “the evolution of Democracy in India” on net, where we are heading toward? but one thing is sure only our leaders and politicians are not only responsible for this dilemma, we too are. They are also one of us. 

Punjabi Song:हाय ओये मेरेया डाडेया रब्बा,

मधानियाँ,
हाय ओये मेरेया डाडेया रब्बा,
किन्ना जम्मियाँ किन्ना ने ले जाणीयाँ ।
हाय छोले,
बाबुल तेरे मैहलां विच्चों
सत रंगिया कबूतर बोले ।
हाय पावे,
बाबुल तेरे मैहलां विच्चों
ठंडी हवा पूरे दी आवे ।
हाय फीता,
ऐना सकेयाँ वीरां ने
डोला टोर के अगां नू कीता ।
हाय फीता,
ऐना सकीयां भाबियाँ ने
डोला टोर के कच्चा दुध पीता ।
हाय कलियाँ,
मावां धीयाँ मिलन लग्गीयां
चारे कंधां ने चबारे दियां हल्लियाँ

Punjabi Marriages.

Last week I have been to Punjab for a “ grand punjabi marriage” . Marriages in Punjab are quite like a social carnivals. It is always grand and lively actually one can add as many as adjectives one can .Main features of punjabi marriages are:
1. Lot of noise
2.Lot of colors
3.Lot of sweets and cuisines
4.Lots of gossips
5.Lot of marriage making discussion
6.Lots of old and new customs.
As I said it is a social carnival, which means a interaction with lots of people and I tell you that’s the place for lot of stories and variety, one can’t believe. Topics from fashion to rocket science to international politics.
Marriage ceremonies are compilation of traditional rituals and customs but with time things are changing and so as rituals. I will try to capture all important events of a Punjabi marriage. As I have been from boy side so I am going to spell out functions from that side.
Takha or Rokka In this ceremony, the boy and the girl commit to enter a wedlock, and won't consider any more matrimonial proposals. The girl's maternal uncle gives her the nath (nose ring) which she will wear on her wedding.Though rings are not exchanged, the couple stand unofficially engaged after this ceremony.
Sagai/Kudmai This ceremony begin with the tikka ceremony, held few days before the wedding  in which the family of the girl visits  the boy's place carrying beautifully wrapped gifts and the tikka material: a silver tray with a few grains of rice and saffron in a tiny silver bowl, 14 chuharey (dried dates) covered with silver foil and a coconut wrapped in a gold leaf. The father of the girl applies 'tikka' on his son-in-law's forehead and gives him his blessings and some money. In return, the girl's family receives baskets of seven dried fruits: almonds, cashewnuts, chuahara, coconut pieces, raisins, khurman (dried apricots) and phoolmakhana.
The girl is draped with a chunni (stole), which is usually very ornate. A tiny dot of mehendi is applied to her palm for good luck, and the function is sealed with the exchange of rings. Everyone present congratulates the couple by feeding them sweet.
Mangni/shagun The Engagement ,The girls side of the family goes to the boys' side with gifts, jewellery, and other goods, to confirm the engagement but these days because of time constraints Mangni is planned along with SAGAI. Girls possession is led by girl’s brother, who worship groom as god and offer him lot of gifts.
Dholki/sangeet : This part of the wedding is full of noise.Respective families invites their neighbors and relatives to sing wedding songs at their homes till marriage.On groom’s side all relatives from maternal or paternal side organize sangeet every night. 
Mayina: After this ceremony, would be bride and groom can’t their home alone. Oil is applied to both of them and Ghana is tied to their wrists.

Sanda: Maternal uncle perform this ceremony. he leads this puja with brides parents and perform all donations later maternal uncle gifts CHUDDA to bride (red and creamy bangles ). On other side groom to have to sit in puja after this puja groom’s maternal uncle help groom to take bath which is known as BHUTNA after bath groom have to jump on 7 earthen cups and break them, this is known as KHADE CHADNA.
Mehndi:The last major function before the wedding is the mehendi. Mehendiwallis are called to the respective houses of the boy and girl and they apply mehendi to the palms of the female family members, and the hands and feet of the bride. A basket containing bindis and bangles is handed around so girls can choose those that match the outfit they plan to wear to the wedding. For the bride the mehndi is sent by the future Mother in Law, which is beautiful decorated.
Sarbala(caretaker of the groom): A young nephew or cousin also dons similar attire as the groom. He is called the sarbala/shabbala  and accompanies him though out the wedding.
Sehrabandi: It comprises of dressing up of groom in his wedding attire. After the groom has dressed up in his wedding clothes, a puja is performed. Thereafter, the groom’s brother in law or Pundit ji ties the sehra on the groom’s head. After the completion of Sehrabandi ceremony, all those who witness the function give gifts and cash to the boy as a token of good luck.
Varna Varna is a ceremony that is supposed to ward off the evil eye. The groom's bhabi lines his eyes with surma (kohl).Usually this ceremony is performed after ghodi chadai but it is not a hard and fast rule.
Ghodi Chadna: The Ghori Chadna is the final ceremony at the groom’s place. The groom’s sisters and cousins feed and adorn his mare. To ward off the evil eye, people use cash and perform the Varna ritual. The cash is then distributed among the poor , it like grooms side throw coins before his procession .
After that whole barat leaves for Girl’s place.